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IMDB rating: 4.60 Plot: While driving in the road, Richard Wynn crashes his car and his beloved wife Molly Wynn dies. Along two years, his sister-in-law Laci Collins moves to his house and helps Richard to raise his son Danny Wynn and his teenage daughter Carrie Wynn. When Richard decides to get married with Nicole Harris, the deranged and psychotic Laci that is in love for Richard, tries to force Richard to call off the wedding with malevolence against Nicole and manipulating Danny. |
Actors: Ashby Linden,Donnelly Brent,McPhail Steven,O’Reilly Michael,Croft Bill,Rainville Paul,Thriller,
Is it OK to do it this way? It our wedding right?
My boyfriend & I had a serious conversation about us getting married last night. I had been pretty upset about us not being engaged already. (we have been together for 6 years, lived together now 3 own a house together) He doesn’t see a point in having a wedding since his father has passed away. He hates everyone on his dads side since they are either drunks or druggies. Or just put his family down since his father was never ever like that. His mom’s side less then half of them are worth inviting. They either hate me because I have told them they are screwed up or they are screwed up. (Very self centered talk about you behind your back, judgmental people or druggies) I would say 25 people would be invited from his side counting his mom & sisters.
Now my side is huge, Just my dad’s side no kids under 18, would be about 30 people my mom’s side yet again no kids under 18 about 40 people. There is no way of cutting it down either. (dad’s 1 of 7 kids my mom 1 of 5 all with kids some grandkids my age) We can not afford to have that many people. I see no point in having a $30,000+ wedding when we could have a $3,000-$5,000 wedding.
My question is…is it ok for us to get married in the winery like we want. (its 5 hours away from our house) Just invite grandparents, parents, a great aunt & uncle from his side, our siblings who will be in the wedding & both our best friends who are maid of honor & best man. (about 25 people total) & have a reception at my parents house after, a couple weeks later?
We both are very planned out people. He doesn’t want to ask me to marry him & us have to wait 10 years to afford a wedding. We both want a game plan. So when we are engaged we can have a short engagement.
I just don’t want to deal with the drama when people realize they aren’t invited to the wedding.
We are not letting our parents pay for this wedding at all. Getting them selves there is it. Its all out of our pockets.
I also don’t want to plan my wedding where everyone else wants it. We went to NY’s wine country fell in love we both agreed over 2 years ago to get married there. But I’m not paying for a huge wedding for people to realize its 5 hours away & not come. I know the people we do invite (the small group) will come.
No court house or fire hall wedding. We both agreed even when we were together 2 years that was not for either of us.
We also have plans on going overseas for a honey moon…..so if we want to send more on that then a 1 day wedding. I just don’t want people to be mad
YES YES IT IS… You are coming out of your pocket for the wedding and its up to you how much you like to spend. i think that is a good idea having the reception later just send out reception invites and just note that although you love all of your family that your on a budget and would still like them to come to the reception. if they have issues with that sooner or later they will get over it
jlovemealways21 | Feb 03, 2010
Why not to worry about it when you are actually engaged?
Blunt | Feb 03, 2010
of course it’s ok
smart move too
IndianaJohn | Feb 03, 2010
Of course its okay. But just make sure this is what you really want because you can never do it again, and there is a risk of having regrets.
raineyswe3t16 | Feb 03, 2010
There’s no rules. It’s your wedding and your decision. Who says you have to go the $30,000.00 route. It’s crazy. It’s different if you and your husband have not lived together and now plan to marry. Daddy & Mommy want the big affair to show of their daughter. Same for the other side. But you to have already started life and a family together. No surprises there!. And small intimate wedding and dinner sounds great to me. ps: When my daughter came to me and said she and her bf of 4 years want to marry, I was all agog. Wife and I started planning the whole thing. After 2 weeks, my daugher came to me and said, "Dad, we did all the research. The wedding will be a minimum of 150people. And the way you and mom are planning this thing, it will cost a minimum of $25,000.00." "We have a better idea", she went on. " Write a check to us for $15,00.00. No affair. Just an intimate small wedding and dinner with immediate family". We did it her way. No one was sorry. That was 12 years ago. There’s no rules. What you want is what you and he should do. Good Luck.
Joseph | Feb 03, 2010
Yes you can and you can also get married at the Court House just take
you love one with you and plan a Wedding Reception a couple if weeks
after.
Lots of people look at the money that you are spending to get married to
me it is not worth it. When you love someone is all about love and not about
a huge wedding. A nice Court House Wedding is nice as well.
I dont blame you I would not spend that kind of money either.
?Wife | Feb 03, 2010
What you have suggested sounds like a great solution that will make for a great wedding!
I have my own share of familial problems which will mean a very small and private ceremony. Not everyone has the all-frills wedding, but it can be just as great or better not to!
Perse | Feb 03, 2010
100 % yes its your wedding and do what you want……….. Thank to yourself as your making the guest list. Who supports your relationships, who loves you , and who you will know in at least ten years. If they do not fit these categories.. then why spend 60-80 dollars per person. I am having the 30,000 wedding personally. But only because I am not paying for it. One of my closest friends are have the 3,000 wedding. Hers will be just as memorable, beautiful and special and mine will be, without the "having to invite" everyone.
This is you and your fiance’s day. No one else.
Heather | Feb 03, 2010
yes its ok, and i think it will save a lot of bitching cos if you had the big wedding, then peole would be asking why they weren’t invited and stuff, i think you should def go ahead with the small one. at least you would enjoy yourself a bit more! and you wouldn’t be in debt!
dani | Feb 03, 2010
It is quite in order.
Nehru | Feb 03, 2010
Absolutely. I don’t know why you’d wait for the reception, but there is no reason not to. It absolutely makes sense to invite only those closest to you and have an affordable, beautiful wedding.
By the way, after I lost my father, I felt much the same way about marriage for quite a while. I just didn’t see the appeal. It took some time to see my life differently without him in the picture.
I hope your wedding turns out perfectly.
juvegirl, B2B 2010 | Feb 03, 2010
Ask yourselves why wouldn’t it be ok – then look at the reasons and decide if they are as important as being married is to you. I don’t see how anything could be as important as your own lives and your own happiness.
Sandy Ego | Feb 03, 2010
of course its ok. Dont spend so much money on the wedding. Spend it on the honeymoon!!!
Personally I would get married with only a few people, closest family and friends only, then maybe have a bigger reception with more people if you really want.
Or even better get married by yourselves someplace fun and have your honeymoon there too. Then come back and have a small reception.
Majin | Feb 03, 2010
That sounds really nice actually. Invite the people who would care enough to want to be there with you and have a great time.
Blu | Feb 03, 2010
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